During wedding provisions, all eyes are on the bride-to-be. Everything has to be done her way - her ideas, her choices, her vision. It’s her ought to be able to manage how it goes. The people around her concede to this, so they agree. Not to point out that they don’t wish the bride turning into a bridezilla.
But what about the groom? Shouldn’t he be given the same amount of consideration as the bride? Is there no possibility of grooms turning into a groomzilla? It’s his day as well, and except if he has tied-the-knot and divorced three times, he will go through the same jitters as the bride. Well, that and the fact that he has to deal with a stressed out bride.
If you are a groom-to-be worrying over your bride-to-be-bridezilla, there are a few things you can do to keep the peace and your good sense pending the big day. Of course, custom calls for you to give attention to what the bride likes. But this doesn’t mean that you allow her to have peach as your wedding motif when it virtually hurts your eyes. I’m sure she wouldn’t want you wearing, be ready to give way to some of her ideas.
Let your bride know what you want. Share your ideas so that you both reach at a concession - from deciding on cheap groomsmen gifts to the caterer and the florist. Tell your bride if you fancy giving out a flask, or a cigar flask as souveniers to the guys, the kind of meal you want served, and if you care to, the sort of flowers you like. Or, you can divide the duty both ways - you decide on the groomsmen gift, while she picks the florists, and then both of you can work choose the caterer. Seems fair enough, right?
Your big day is not concerning just you or your bride - it’s about the two of you. So make sure you reach some sort of agreement when deciding decisions about your wedding details. Ideally, this should be recognized before any of your family members become involved in the planning. Otherwise, planning for your wedding will be more complicated than it should be.
If you’re not comfortable with so many people deciding on what’s supposed to be an intimate day for the two of you, let your bride know. That’s really the main thing - communication. You have to keep the lines clear, and you also have to learn how to listen, as well as confer your ideas. Keep this in mind, and you won’t be turning into a groomzilla, and neither will your bride turn into the feared bridezilla.
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