At some time in every girl’s life, there comes a time when she experiences this -you are involved with a terrific guy – your relationship is smooth and seems to be flowing naturally. Then he gradually begins to withdraw , maybe not texting as often or calling when he gets home from work, or starting to hang out with the guys more and more.
Soon enough, he wants to “have a chat”. He breaks up with you – maybe using the “it’s not you, it’s me” line, or “I’m not ready for a relationship” - whatever excuse he dreams up, and you are left trying to figure out what went wrong. I’m betting that you tried many different things to get him to stay, too. They might have gone something like this:
You might have tried to be his “best friend”, being all chummy and happy, trying to get him to see you as one of the guys, with benefits. Or perhaps you were trying to demonstrate your worth by being helpful and doing all kinds of little things for him. You probably did this because you were hoping that he could understand that you could be a better friend to him than his guy-friends and were therefore worth hanging on to.
You could have tried the old standby – jealousy as well. Perhaps you went out on a date just to spite him. Or maybe you just said you had a date lined up in hopes that it would get back to him and he would realize that he loved you indeed and no other man could have you. Every woman wants a Scottish romance novel, right? Alas – our men – have NO friggen clue.
Or you could do what I did and go about torturing yourself and acting like having a casual relationship is a-ok with you! THAT is fun – because you cannot let him see that he is ripping out your soul every time he comes by and wants to get it on, and then leaves again. So you cry – alone – and he has no idea.
You might have also gotten totally ticked – and gave him an ultimatum or tried to guilt him into staying with you – believing 100% in your heart of hearts that he would be happy as soon as he let himself get settled into your relationship.
Well – I am going to go out on a limb and say that none of these methods worked for you, (or me!) even though they make perfect sense to us as women. My own trial at the casual relationship farce didn’t work, and I ended up getting used. So, I decided to try to find out a better way to handle these things – because after all, many blissful couples have had problems and have gone from the edge of ending it to a happily ever after. Why not me too?
Well, I personally think Christian Carter and his Catch Him, Keep Him philosophy rock, so I turned to him in order to learn how to promote natural and lasting attraction within my next relationship. What Christian Carter says is that in order to promote natural and lasting attraction, you need to start by fixing some things within your own head first.
That makes total sense to me, as I know that in order to really change anything in your life, you first have to change inside yourself. I wish I could say there was a magic phrase that would turn your relationship around in an instant, but there is not – like most things that are genuine and truly works, it takes learning and commitment. There are ways to promote natural and lasting attraction so that your failing relationship becomes healthy, steady and FULL of deep, blossoming love between you and your man. What you need to do to make natural and lasting attraction a reality in your relationship is to START doing what it is that makes a man FEEL ATTRACTED and MORE INTERESTED in you.
Using the Catch Him and Keep Him values, you can easily understand what creates natural and lasting attraction, and what maintains it in viable, steady relationships, and bring that into your OWN relationship. What I mean is that the biggest roadblock most ladies face when it comes to getting through to guys and getting past the stereotypes and on into a true-blue relationship with a worthwhile man is not having the ability to see past their OWN mindset. Overcome that using the tools that Christian Carter gives you and….viola!
Creating natural and lasting attraction will allow your relationship to truly soar –you can experience the happily ever after effect, trust and fulfillment – and so will HE. Do your relationship a favor and LEARN what makes natural and lasting attraction grow and what YOU can do today to begin.
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