Dating AdviceDating
February 21st, 2008 by Raymond Subscribe To Our Feed
It is amazing what people fall for when they are desperate. Anyone who has looked at all of the scams on the Internet offering guaranteed success in business for just a small investment probably knows exactly what I’m talking about. People get crazy about money, and they do stupid things when they should know better.
As insane as people get over money, however, they get even crazier over romance. People get dating advice from anyone. People get dating tips from psychics, from friends who have had little relationship success, and from so-called experts with no professional credentials. From Dr. Phil to the palm reader down at the county fair, the world of dating advice is filled with quacks. Although sometimes these people give good advice on dating, you are always taking a risk when you listen to them. Is it worth the risk?
I used to get relationship advice from a good friend of mine. He presented himself as a real ladies man, but the reality was much different. He got a lot of dates with a lot of different girls it was true, but part of the reason was because none of them wanted to stay with him for more than a date or two. We thought he was such a stud at the time that we listened to his dating advice, but it was always terrible. All of his relationship tips inevitably failed. Sure, his dating advice could help us to find a date. He would help us get our relationship profile in order for online dating services, or practice that perfect pickup line. He would not, however, help us make our relationships last.
When you get dating advice from someone, it is important that you first know a little bit about their personal life. I am not saying that someone who doesn’t have a good relationship history can’t give good dating advice, but I am saying that it should make you wonder. There are some people who can tell you the right thing to do but can’t do it themselves, but for every one of them there are at least five who tell it just exactly like they do it. The bottom line is that you should not trust someone for dating advice just because of their so-called expertise. Instead, find a friend who has had at least one very stable relationship and has very good powers of self perception. Get your dating advice from him or her.
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When you go out on a date with a womanDating
December 25th, 2007 by Raymond Subscribe To Our Feed
1. When you go out on a date with a woman, wear decent shoes which are clean and polished. This is very important to a woman.
Why you may ask? Well, if you ask a woman what she looks at when she first sees a man she will usually say, face, shoes and bum. If she sees you are wearing dirty shoes or trainers she will not be impressed at all. On the other hand if you are wearing nice, shiny shoes subconciously she will think “he looks after himself, he has got his act together, can look after me and provide for me”.
2. Make sure you have a presentable hairstyle which is cut regularly to keep it looking good & above all your hair must be clean.
If your hair isn’t clean she will run screaming from the building! Well maybe not but your chances of getting a second date will go down a lot. What if you don’t have much hair? Well a good thing to do in this case is to shave it off completely as having little hair isn’t a choice, but shaving it completely is a choice. Also some girls really go for shaved guys.
3. Keep your hands and fingernails clean and tidy.
Women hate men that have dirty nails, she will think “if he can’t be bothered to keep his nails clean, god knows what the rest of him is like!”
You should trim and file your nails too, she will think you look after yourself and are cool, not that you are gay or something!
4. Wear a quality aftershave and use talcom powder.
A woman’s sense of smell is around 40 times better than a man’s and she loves it when you smell good, so saving money by buying a cheap aftershave will cost you in the women department. If you smell nice she will be sniffing you and will want to be near you, also most men don’t bother to wear aftershave when they go out, so if you are wearing a quality aftershave then you will definately smell better than the competition.
5. Use mens’s moisturizing lotion on your face and hands regularly and drink lots of water.
Keeping your face and hands looking younger and feeling softer than they would do otherwise will make you more attractive to women and drinking lots of water is good for your body and will help keep you young.
Jose Miguel Poza is the author and if you would like to find out more ways to improve your dating by reading more free dating related articles, please visit http://www.chooseadatingsite.com/dating-articles/index.html
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Here you are. You just have had another failed relationship, wondering do I want to put myself back out there to and try to meet someone just to be disappointed again. How can you take a different approach this time? How can you increase your chances when you do meet someone you are interested in? How do you avoid dishonest people in your search? These are the q.uestions I asked myself when I was single and I was looking for my life partner. If you follow the steps outlined below, you will get better results in finding your great lifelong relationship!
Step 1: You need to know yourself and your life goals
A client of mine is a divorced and is having a difficult time getting back in the dating game. He really missed having a steady relationship and didn�t feel very confident about getting out there to date. He took a shotgun approach on the internet and met a woman who came from a different cultural background, including a different religion. He was happy at first to meet someone who was interested in him. As time went on, apparent differences started to appear. Yet, he did care for this woman.
We worked to clarify his values as well as his goals for his life. How did he picture his life in the future as a married individual? First he wanted a family and one that honored his faith. He realized this would be a big stumbling block with the different cultures and religion. He also valued being prudent with his finances and realized his girlfriend had higher expectations than he could afford. All in all their values were in conflict as well as how they wanted to live their life in the future.
What if he knew this information before going into the relationship? Perhaps he would have not ventured to date this woman and save himself the heartache. N.ow he has to start the dating and selecting process all over again. However, he will select someone more congruent with his values and lifestyle goals next time that will give him a better chance to have success.
Step 2: You need to know what you need in a relationship?
What must you have in a relationship to make you happy? Do you know? Do you crave romance, physical affection, a significant amount time with your partner? Do you need someone who is financially stable?
I know a women, Donna, who became smitten with my friend, Roy*, and visa versa. They dated for at least 3 months and seemed happy. However, she lived in Virginia with y.oung children and he lived in Maryland (40 minutes away) and had his own child. Neither would be able to move because of the children. In addition, Roy had started a new career that involved commission s.ales and was not yet financially secure. Donna broke up with Roy because he didn�t earn enough income for Donna. What a tragedy! Roy was heartbroken.
Just imagine that Donna and Roy knew that the distance would be difficult in this situation and Donna knew her financial needs from a partner. They would have not invested their time and emotion in this relationship and would have sought relationships that meet their needs.
Just a hint, if you feel needy in a relationship, some key expression of love is missing for you.
Step 3: Do Take on the Tough Issues Early On
One of my clients was dating a man that she was falling in love with and was very much attached to. After two months, she discovered that he did not want anymore children than the two he had from his previous marriage. She desired to have a child of her own (a clear �must have�).
It was difficult, but she did decide to break up and try to find someone who had the same goal as she did. Time is critical for many women and learning this information quickly is very important.
What if she brought the subject up on the second or third date and said, �I�m looking to meet someone that I will eventually marry and want children of their own�? She would have found out right away that he choose not to have another child. You say, how can I say this? Won�t I scare the guy away? My philosophy is if the guy (or gal) gets scared and runs away, let him (or her)! Any serious contender will stick around.
Step 4: Don�t Get Too Physical Too Soon!
Time and time I see my clients get too physically involved in a relationship much too quickly and then regret how hooked in they became. They were in this quandary that they liked the physical relationship but did not see a future with the woman. And for women, there is a hormone released during s.ex that makes us feel attached to the male.
Resist temptation! It�s so important to get to know a person and let the emotional, intellectual connection, and spiritual connection for some, grow first. This is a foundation of a great relationship. If there is physical attraction, that�s great. It�s not going anywhere.
Take at least 3 months to date and really get to know each other without s.ex. If there is a desire to take the relationship to the next stage, being exclusive with the desire move in a serious direction, at least you know that you have the same values, goals in life and want the same things. Besides, if the relationship turns out not to be right, you will be able to walk away with respect and may be able to remain friends. This step alone will reduce the risk of failing in a relationship again.
Step 5: Make a Commitment to Be Honest in Your Relationships
In my dating questionnaire, I asked the question, �In dating and/or relationships, what makes you angry?� The overwhelming response is dishonesty. Yes, we can�t control how another behaves, but we can choose to be honest to another person. They will respect you for your honesty.
I recently had a client role-play how she would tell a guy that she was not interested in dating him. I asked her how she felt when she said to him,� I enjoyed meeting you. However, I do not feel that this is a good fit for me.� She said she felt empowered and felt good about herself for being honest and straightforward. I then asked her,� how are you honoring this person by being honest?� She replied,� I am showing them I respect them and not willing to waste their time so they can find someone more suited for him.� Bingo!
How can you prevent someone from being dishonest with you? Go back to step #4! Take your time and get to know your potential partner. The people dating with integrity will respect you and want to take the time for them to get to know you, as well.
By following the steps above, you are ensuring a better dating experience the next time around. By being honest and straightforward with others, you will gain their respect and be someone they may recommend to a friend if it turns out they are not the one. All in all, it will be win-win situation.
* The names have been changed to honor confidentiality of my clients and friends.
Amy Schoen is a life coach who specializes in helping singles to discover what they need and want in relationships and how to find their desired romantic partner. For down to earth tips and helpful hints on dating and relationships, you can subscribe to her popular ezine or her tele-seminars at: http://www.heartmindconnection.com
DatingDating
December 5th, 2007 by Raymond Subscribe To Our Feed
Dating is always a result of compatibility and chemistry between two people. When you feel giddy and electricity seem to pass from the roots of your hair down to tips of your toes, then most probably you’ll be wanting to experience even one special moment with that person.
Dinner by candlelight, rose petals strewn on every space available on the floor, soft music from the string quartet in the background, delicious food and expensive wine. Not to mention the presence of the person that we feel would make us special. This is what we see as an ideal date.
But how about if the other person is different, say, with his beliefs and religion? Have you ever imagined dating someone Jewish for example, when you yourself is a Christian or a Buddhist, maybe.
So what happened with compatibility, you ask. You said compatibility should be present for a date to be successful, you ask again.
They say that diversity is the spice of life. It becomes boring somehow when you often date someone with the same background, same religion, same tastes, and even same block.
Have you ever thought, even for one single moment, how it is to date a Jew? Yes, a Jew.
Jews are commonly stereotyped as tedious, straight, and more often than not boring to the extreme. But what could deconstruct this proverbial belief but to tell you that they do have a sense of excitement and adventure when it comes to dating.
When before they are closed to the idea of dating other religion, now they have come to view dating as some sort of getting to know more people, where eventually they would be able to meet their future spouses.
And yes, they do participate in online dating. In fact, most of the Jewish couples are proud to say that they met their partners via the internet. Times have really changed. And it changed big time.
And because they believe in love being the outcome of deep appreciation of each individual’s goodness, it’s no wonder then that Jewish men and women are getting to be attractive to those romantic others that are definitely not part of their circle. They particularly believe that goodness is what moves people to love. And what moves Jewish men and women to love others is the innate goodness that they know is in each and everyone of us, no matter their religion. If the shoe fits, then they tie the knot.
Dating a Jew is like an irresistible challenge and it’s great to face a host of interesting challenges just to get the love you truly deserve.
So what are you waiting for? Go grab yourself a Jew. You might never know what you missed if you stay in your box and never experience the diversity and difference in people that life has to offer.
About the Author
Nathalie Medrano writes for Jewish Dating 247.com - If you are Jewish and looking for love then this is the site for you. Articles, Reviews and Links to the best Jewish Dating Sites on the Internet and the DrDating Forum - a forum for people looking for help in love, relationships and dating.
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Are you concerned about the safety of your online dating? Do you want to make sure that if you take the step to meet someone that you are not setting yourself up in a dangerous situation? Here are 5 online dating safety tips to help you avoid dangerous situations.
Dating tip #1 � Make sure that you have as much information about the person as possible. Get their phone number and address, if you are a female. If you are a male there really is not too much to worry about.
Dating tip #2 � Make sure to get more than one picture and a recent picture is the best. Having a picture will give you a really good idea of who this person is and what they look like. You can tell a lot by looks and women especially have an intuition about people and with a picture most women can tell if a person is a good person or not.
Dating tip #3 � Meet the person in a public place where plenty of other people will be around. You should always meet in a public place until you get to know the person and the fear subsides. Never meet in a private or a semi private place. This is only setting you up for danger
Dating tip #4 � Never go home with the person you are meeting until you have gotten to know them better. First of all this makes you appear easy and weak. Second, it is just common sense not to allow yourself to be alone with someone until you know you are not in danger.
Dating tip #5 � Park your car in a safe place with plenty of light. Make sure to park your car where there is a lot of light and you will feel safe walking to your car.
The last tip I have for you is taking a friend along with you. If you are worried at all, then invite a friend so to make you feel more comfortable. Now you have the tips you need to start online dating.
Are you ready to meet the right person? Have you wanted to date online? Go to the following site and sign up for your free dating account.
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