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Growing Online Dating RelationshipsDating

December 19th, 2007 by Raymond   Subscribe To Our Feed

Growing Online Dating Relationships

Just like regular real-world relationships, online relationships need tending, to grow over time. Here are some quick growing tips.

1. Take time and make time. Does your online date get in touch with you regularly? Do you do the same? Neglecting virtual meetings can be considered abuse or neglect, so treat each otherís time with respect. If itís lacking, might mean time to move on.

2. Communication needs to ìfeelî right for both of you. If one of you is too pushy about meeting, for instance, that can give off bad vibes. So donít rush. Take time to learn more about each other and develop trust.

3. Respect each others privacy. Donít share personal email addresses or digital photos online, for example, if your online date sent you the information in confidence.

4. Share special online and offline fun times. Online ñ send greeting cards, links to favorite places to upload digital photos of your favorite pet, download music and video clips, post on favorite forums of interest. Offline- if youíre exchanging addresses or post office boxes, send print greeting cards and postcards, small items from your area (like a key chain with your state bird).

Tend your online relationship. Water it with care and over time it can sprout and grow.

Online Dating Relationships safety

Establishing Online Dating Relationships: Safety FirstDating

December 19th, 2007 by Raymond   Subscribe To Our Feed

Online dating can be fun. But donít neglect safety and common sense when you try to hook up with a mate. At minimum, take caution in the following areas.

Protect Your Computer

Take care of your equipment and systems before you head out into the Internet realm. You need to have a firewall and anti-virus protection for your email and for when you search websites and interact online. At the bare minimum, you may want these two solutions that are offered at no charge to home computer users (i.e. not for commercial use):

Free Firewall Download: ZoneAlarm www.zonelabs.com
Free Anti-Virus Download: AVG Anti-Virus www.grisoft.com

Protect Yourself

Take care of yourself, too, by choosing appropriate dating sites. Seek and choose a reputable online dating service. How? Begin by asking around with friends, neighbors, co-workers and others you may know who have tried online dating, and see which places they recommend. In addition, search ìonline dating servicesî and keep a notebook of their URLs or website links, the fees, rules and regulations, complete contact information of each and any other useful information that spikes your interest. Then compare each place. Try only those places where you feel safe. Avoid the others.

So take care. Arm your computer ñ and yourself- with the correct tools and knowledge!

Online Dating Relationships safety

Are you concerned about the safety of your online datingDating

December 13th, 2007 by Raymond   Subscribe To Our Feed

Are you concerned about the safety of your online dating? Do you want to make sure that if you take the step to meet someone that you are not setting yourself up in a dangerous situation? Here are 5 online dating safety tips to help you avoid dangerous situations.

Dating tip #1 � Make sure that you have as much information about the person as possible. Get their phone number and address, if you are a female. If you are a male there really is not too much to worry about.

Dating tip #2 � Make sure to get more than one picture and a recent picture is the best. Having a picture will give you a really good idea of who this person is and what they look like. You can tell a lot by looks and women especially have an intuition about people and with a picture most women can tell if a person is a good person or not.

Dating tip #3 � Meet the person in a public place where plenty of other people will be around. You should always meet in a public place until you get to know the person and the fear subsides. Never meet in a private or a semi private place. This is only setting you up for danger

Dating tip #4 � Never go home with the person you are meeting until you have gotten to know them better. First of all this makes you appear easy and weak. Second, it is just common sense not to allow yourself to be alone with someone until you know you are not in danger.

Dating tip #5 � Park your car in a safe place with plenty of light. Make sure to park your car where there is a lot of light and you will feel safe walking to your car.

The last tip I have for you is taking a friend along with you. If you are worried at all, then invite a friend so to make you feel more comfortable. Now you have the tips you need to start online dating.

Are you ready to meet the right person? Have you wanted to date online? Go to the following site and sign up for your free dating account.

http://www.ready-repair-my-credit.com/truedating.htm

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I don’t know what you’ve been told about internet dating, but it’s not always as easy as 1,2,3. If you’ve searched around or thought about it much then you’re probably aware of the upsides. Ultimately, there’s no better, faster way to sort through and find potential mates that fit the “profile.”
You can take your search much further than you normally could offline. And if know yourself, what you want, and what to look for, you can get great results. This is the stuff advertisements are made of. But with these advantages usually come certain challenges that you’ll need to work through.
By the way, if you don’t know yourself well and what it is you want, that’s fine. Have fun with it and learn. Just don’t expect to meet your match right away. You can use the internet to help you discover these things.
What you can’t do is use internet dating to smooth out all of your rough spots and work some kind of magic for you. This will not be fruitful. Because sooner or later, it all comes down to the weakest link.
As an example, some people who live in areas of low population will get online expecting this to fix that problem for them. They end up blaming the service when they don’t find a lot people from their area online. They were hoping for something that the online world can’t necessarily help them with.
So it may not provide the automatic solution you were hoping for. The question is, what does it allow you to do that you couldn’t easily do before? How can this make up for the original problem? It’s a negotiation. Sometimes you have to give a little before you can take, or in this case, before you can benefit from this new situation called internet dating.
You have to ask yourself, how important is this? In this example, would it be important enough to drive a little further or arrange to meet halfway? Because this is an option that wasn’t easily available before. If not, then there must be other things that are more important. What are they?
Others become cynical and quit when their dates don’t represent themselves accurately or honestly online. It can happen to anyone. It will probably happen to you. But it seems to happen a lot more to some people. There are probably two things going on there. One is akin to the inadvertant but habitual seeking out of abusive relationships. Here, the person is presented with signs of problems to come, but consitently overlooks them. Often the people around them can see something that they can’t.
Or it could be just a simple matter of learning from your mistakes. You don’t get to use your intuition the same way as you would in real life, so you have to develop methods that will make up for this. What I don’t hear about in these cases is any attempt to prevent this by changing the way they do things. This usually explains why they’re getting the same results.
It presents a challenge, but again, how could you turn this around by using the new abilities that internet dating gives you? One way is to be more direct with people in the future. This is easier for most people to do online, and as a result more common.
So learn how to take full advantage of this benefit. It may take some time. But it’s hard to give internet dating a fair chance until you do. What could you learn if you could ask people the kinds of questions that can take weeks, months, even years to get answered otherwise? Remember I said that internet dating can be the fastest way to sort through people?
Here’s the most common challenge of all… getting a decent response to your profile or emails. Profiles in general is a subject that’s too big to get into here, so let me restrict this to email. The vast majority of this involves men. There are approximately 4 times as many men doing this than women. Add that to the fact that men initiate far more than women and you can start to see where response might be a problem.
There are many upsides that can compensate for this. A common one is that men can spare themselves the indimidation factor in approaching women. And if they play their cards right, internet dating can be a real confidence builder. Chatting with women online is a skill that’s not just useful for getting dates online. It carries over to offline situations as well. But I digress…
To this problem, the basic answer is the same. That is, you have to change what you’re doing to get different results. But that’s a little to vague in this case. The problem is that women continue to see the same kinds of emails coming a lot of different men. For the more attractive ones, it’s out of control.
Under these conditions, you have to do something fundamentally different in your approach to stand out… and standing out is the only way to get fair consideration. Just refining your current approach isn’t going to be enough if your current approach isn’t working.
Take a lesson from nature - evolution had the same idea when it gave male peacocks their colorful tails. What you do differently depends partly on you, because it’s mostly just a matter of you being secure in your uniqueness.
But until you are, and until you’ve developed your unique style around that, there are some things that you have to understand. Things that most guys who aren’t naturals don’t know. Once you do, your results will improve dramatically, reinforcing your authentic character instead of calling it into question.
That’s as much detail as I can go into in this article, but I’ll leave you with this… If you want to make internet dating work for you, learn about what you have available to you, use it, experiment with it, get creative, and try new things.
At the same time, you have to be aware of what’s going on in your head. In other words, what are you telling yourself? Become aware of thought patterns that are working against you. If you catch them, stop them immediately and replace them with ones that serve you better.
It’s not so much what’s online or what’s offline that will determine your results. It’s what’s in your head.

About The Author

Laurence Baker is the founder of http://www.about-internet-dating.com, a site dedicated to providing honest information about the internet dating world including service reviews, tips, and specific, practical advice that’s hard to find elsewhere.

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