Tips for Healing After a Break-Up

Tips for Healing After a Break-Up

Some break-ups are a big relief; others can seemingly come out of nowhere and leave you utterly heartbroken. Even shorter-lived relationships can take a long time to recover from, particularly if the emotions involved were intense, and it might take you longer to get over these than you might realize. 

While some of your heartbreak might be easy to get your head around, that doesn’t mean that there isn’t the need for some healing no matter what the circumstances. If you have recently experienced the end of a relationship and are feeling a little bit lost, here are some tips that could help you move forward and eventually get ready to open your heart to someone else.

Try to Find Positive Distractions

It can be easy to begin obsessing over your previous relationship, even if you were the one who chose to end things. Hindsight is a powerful tool, and when you start to see the relationship from a different perspective, it’s easy to get stuck on the things that you didn’t like or attempt to decipher something vague or cryptic your ex once said to you. 

While reflecting on your previous relationship isn’t necessarily a bad thing, if it is starting to dominate your thoughts, it can make moving on harder. This is why finding positive distractions could be a good idea, whether that means taking up a new hobby, hanging out with your friends, or even getting lost in a book or TV show for an hour or …

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How to Cope with a Sudden Breakup in a Long-Term Relationship

How to Cope with a Sudden Breakup in a Long-Term Relationship

If you’ve been in a long-term relationship with your boyfriend, there are a few red flags that could signal trouble. These may include a recent change in the relationship or a secretive behavior by your boyfriend. Your boyfriend might have explained his actions and feelings to you but haven’t given you any more details. Regardless, it’s not the time to nag your boyfriend.

Investing in yourself

After a long-term relationship ends suddenly and unexpectedly, it’s natural to feel lost and confused. Although you may have been aware of the breakup for months or even years, the sudden shock still leaves you feeling overwhelmed and scared. This can lead to unhealthy emotional investment in others. If you want to feel better, invest in yourself and your own happiness. Here are some ways to do it.

Reclaiming a strong self-concept

Having a strong self-concept is very important for a person to recover after a sudden breakup, as the ending of a long-term relationship can have a profound impact on the way a person perceives themselves. If the relationship was abusive, it is likely that your identity was merged with your partner’s. Now it’s time to re-define yourself, and get over the mistakes of the past.

Despite your desire to reconnect with your ex, your ego and self-concept will probably be battered, making it difficult to move forward. Luckily, you can use the breakup as a springboard to rebuild your confidence and self-esteem. By doing these four things, you’ll soon be feeling like …

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