who divorces his wife, gets a hot girlfriend and buys a red Corvette is a hoary
but oft repeated stereotype of a man going through a midlife crisis. It’s
unclear what comes first, the girlfriend or the sports car but that doesn’t
really matter. I work with men going through mid life transitions and to my
knowledge, not one of them owns a sports car. My ideal client is the guy who is
a little afraid to ask for directions but he can do it. Hardly typical, I know.
every man goes through some kind of mid life transition between the ages of 35
and 50. What they get out of it is entirely up to them but when they go through
it is not often their choice. A mid life transition can be as gentle as feeling
a little uncomfortable to a full blown identity crisis.
start with the full blown identity crisis shall we? A surprising number of men
I work with claim that they do not feel like men at all. They feel like boys
dressed in men’s clothing who act like men and who talk like they think men should
talk. Somehow the line between childhood and being all grown up was never
traversed. Men in this predicament have a very profound fear that they are
going to be found out and exposed, as if someone will rip off their mask and
find the scared boy masquerading in a suit and tie.
point these men/boys get fed up pretending and want to get real. The only
problem is that they have been pretending so long, they have no idea how to be
real or how to be a man. Typically, before they stop to ask for help they
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Yes, we usually open books for
almost all women around. Or so we let you think;) Seriously, there are usually
a few things you can know about us just by glancing at us, but there are SOME
secrets that we keep among ourselves, especially when it comes to
relationships. Despite the sheer number, here are 7 “secrets” that
make a woman very attractive to us.
1. Intelligence: Perhaps the
number one misconception is that all men look for girls who are stupid and easy
to lie. Indeed, sometimes we are what we are looking for, depending on the
opportunity (we are not looking for a wife at the club.) However, what we are
really looking for 90% of the time is women who are intellectual matches with
which we can talk (talk ?! !?) Yes you read that correctly, we really want you
to be smart, it can even be on if you are smarter than us. Just don’t let
anyone know we said that!
2. Personality: “He has a
great personality” is the guy’s code for “He’s ugly but …”
That’s true, but in reality we want you to have a great personality; it
completes the package. Just like you want a man who makes you laugh, we want a
girl we can laugh with.
3. Not Going to Sports: An 8 hour
potato with a bag of Doritos in one hand and beer in the other is a stereotype
that is overused. Sure, some of us like soccer, baseball, or F1, but many of us
don’t like sports as a whole. If you don’t like sports, that’s good for us.
4. Seen: Megan Fox, Jessica Alba,
Halle Berry, Angelina Jolie; it is widely regarded as the symbol of a perfect
woman. Although it’s hard to deny that women … Continue reading »