Many successful relationships and marriages are the results of a blind date, proving that they can work. To make a blind date successful you need to have the right attitude towards them. If you go on a blind date, or any date, with the attitude of failure, then the date will more than likely fail. Your outlook plays a large part in making a blind date work.
The main difference between a blind date and a regular date is the “finding a date” process. Some people struggle with finding a date and having one arranged for you to save you from doing so. Whether you arrange a date yourself with someone you have just met, arrange to meet someone you have met via an online dating service, or allow a friend to arrange a date for you, the overall success of the date can be the same. Having a successful date is all about having a connection with someone, therefore how the date was set up is often irrelevant; you can’t always tell if there will be a connection with someone until you spent some quality time with them.
If you are pressurised into a blind date and aren’t enthusiastic about it, then there is a great chance that it will fail, but that can be applied to any date, not just a blind date. It is down to each individual to decide whether a blind date is for them. People are quick to make a judgment without even thinking about the positive side to them. If someone you know has arranged a date for you then there is a chance you will like the person they have set you up with. Your friend should know your likes and dislikes when it comes to dating, therefore they should arrange a date with someone who meets your preferred criteria. This is when you need to trust your friend’s judgment and ask them all about the person they have arranged for you to meet. When on a blind date, you will both know the person, or people, who arranged the date, therefore you will have something in common to talk about, which is always useful on a first date.
There are also negative sides to blind dates, but they are the same negatives that could happen with any date. It is possible for you to feel awkward with very little in common to talk about, and no connection between you both. These are the risks you take with dating in general. Not every date you go on will work out for you, so you can’t put all blame on it being a blind date.
Everyone is different and looks for different qualities in people and you can’t guarantee that you will have a successful date with someone just because you arrange it yourself. The next time a friend tries setting you up with someone, don’t automatically decline; think it through and ask them as many questions about your potential date as you can think of. Remember, you can always put the date down to experience if it doesn’t work out, but you won’t know if it will be a success unless you give it a go.
