Coming out can be incredibly daunting, and although you might feel nervous and worried about the moment you come out yourself, you might also feel concerned and a little bit lost about what happens after you first come out. As such, here are some of the best pieces of advice that can help you after you come out.
Have Fun
Sometimes, the best way to explore your sexuality and the newfound freedom that you have to express it is simply by having fun and enjoying being out. You do not have to take dating seriously or date at all, and you can simply have fun waving rainbow flags and being open about your sexuality. However, if you do decide to date or sleep with other people, you should consider having fun in the bedroom by investing in queer adult products, such as lesbian sex toys, that can allow you to enjoy having sex, maybe for the first time.
Find a Queer Community
Many people who have only recently come out find that they lack a queer community and that they still feel isolated from the queer communities around them, especially if they live in a rural area or are not overly confident. As such, you should consider finding different ways to make queer friends who can help you to become more settled in yourself, have fun, and allow you to discuss being queer in a safe environment. You can find a queer community online on social media websites, through dating apps with friendship-matching options, and simply by connecting with the people in your life that you already know are in the LGBTQ+ community.
Go to Pride Events
One of the events that many closeted queer people want to visit is Pride, and now that you have come out, you have the opportunity to do so. Going to Pride events can be healing for those who have struggled with their identity and internalized homophobia and can allow you to feel a sense of freedom and community with those around you. It can also help you to feel safer in places where queerness is not spoken about or visible 365 days of the year, and you can even stock up on Pride merchandise that you can wear and decorate with all year round.
Know That You Will Come Out Again
However, unless you drape yourself with a rainbow flag every time that you leave the house, it is almost certain that you will have to continue to come out to people in your life again and again. This can be frustrating for many people, and you may struggle to tell some people more than others. If you struggle to do this, you might consider wearing a piece of Pride merch or putting a rainbow flag on your social media profile so that the majority of people who get to know you can know that you are part of the LGBTQ+ community without you having to say so. You may also choose to tell some people by text or online if this feels easier for you.
